When Being a Teen Hurts - And What You Can Do About It
By Martyn A. Dell Do you ever look in the mirror and hate what you see? Are your classmates teasing you about the way you look? Are boys ignoring you? Or worse yet, harassing you? Do you feel that no one understands you? Do they think it’s a phase that you’ll grow out of? Can you talk to your parents about what is bugging you? It’s hard being a teenager these days. There is so much pressure coming at you from all sides. Your parents want you to get good grades. Your friends want you to have fun. You may have a job that takes up a lot of your time. Your teachers are loading you down with massive amounts of homework. You’re worried about your future. All the while there are these images of beautiful, young, thin people in movies, on TV, in magazines, in music videos. They appear to have it all. They’re pretty, popular, and happy. You feel that you can never measure up. You can’t be perfect. You are not happy. You want something to change but you don’t know what. You may think that if you dieted to become thinner that you would be happier. You may think that if you were thinner that you would be more popular. You might think that if you changed your outside that you would feel better on the inside. To tell you truthfully, that’s probably not going to happen. If you were thinner you would still have the same issues because you would not be changing your core. If you don’t like who you are on the inside, dressing up your outside will only make you feel better for a little while. It’s inevitable that the same old issues will re-surface and require yet another Band Aid. You can fool some of the people, some of the time but you can never fool yourself for very long. You cannot continually be buying new “wrapping paper.” What do I mean about your core? Your core is what makes you special. It is your inner qualities that shine with brilliance. Your core is made up of your beliefs, attitudes, habits and patterns. In your core you are perfect. You are great! You might be asking right now what I mean about changing your core. What I mean is this - when we change our insides our outsides change to reflect what is going on inside. For example, let’s say that you don’t feel good about the way your body looks. When you change the way that you feel about your body you buy some new clothes because you feel you deserve them. With these new clothes you begin to feel more confident and outgoing. You’re meeting new people and having lots more fun. You have a large group of friends now and you have a wonderful boyfriend. The changes that you have experienced did not start with buying the new clothes, the changes started with you beginning to feel better about yourself. It is your inner core that changed not your “wrapping paper.” You might be asking now how can I change my inner core. That is where a coach can help you. What a coach does is provide a safe space for you to share your experiences, hopes, dreams, feelings, fears, and worries. A coach is non-judgmental and totally confidential. You can feel safe that what you say to your coach will not be repeated to anyone, including your parents. A coach will listen to you deeply and attentively. A coach focuses only on you. A coach will help you decide what your goals are based on what is important to you. After you decide what your goals are, a coach will help you set up an action plan filled with the steps you want to take to achieve your goals. A coach will also help you define what your goals are if they are unclear to you. Sometimes we just have a feeling that something isn’t right but we don’t know what it is. A coach will help you untangle your feelings, like you are loosening a tight knot in a rope, until you have a clear vision of what you want. You have everything already inside yourself to achieve all of your goals. A coach just helps you reach those goals faster. Coaches have a toolkit filled with fun ideas, exercises, and resources that will make achieving your dreams fun, enjoyable, and motivating. Change can be scary sometimes but it can also be exhilarating and joyful. A coach will help to ease your worries and fears about the changes you are experiencing. A coach will be with you every step of the way as you reach for your goals. One important thing I want to stress is that a coach will not do the work for you. It is your responsibility to do the work for your goals on your own. They are YOUR goals, not the coach’s goals. A coach will be there to help you with your goals but will not poke and prod you to achieve them. A coach will celebrate your successes with you. A coach will also help you fine tune your goals if necessary. A coach helps you see that you are perfect just as you are. A coach will see the greatness in you - those wonderful qualities in you that make you so special and unique like no other person on this earth. A coach will help you discover or recognize this greatness for yourself. It’s already there waiting for you to see it. A coach will also show you how to see that greatness in others which will make all of your relationships stronger and better. Let me tell you what a coach is not. A coach is not a therapist. Therapy is more concerned with looking at the past and figuring out how it affects right now. Coaching takes you from where you are right now and looks forward. I urge you to please consider hiring a coach. Coaching can truly change your life for the better. The inner changes that you make to your attitudes, beliefs, habits, and patterns will stay with you for the rest of your life. Let’s face it, don’t you deserve to be happy? I think you do! Martyn A. Dell is the founder of Joyful Changes Coaching, a coaching practice that specializes in coaching teen girls. Martyn remembers being a teenager and realizes now that coaching would have shaved 20 years off her journey to self acceptance. Martyn has dedicated her life to coaching girls to become beautiful, strong, confident women. Martyn offers a free 30 minute consultation ($50 value) to teens that are interested in reaching their personal goals. To schedule your consultation, please call 602-600-4680 and leave a message. Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Martyn_A._Dell http://EzineArticles.com/?When-Being-a-Teen-Hurts—And-What-You-Can-Do-About-It&id=249897 advance cash faxless immediately loan payday wired payday loans with payment plans personal loans for 100000 unsecure personal loan
